Friday, November 25, 2016

Diary of a renaissance negresse

Dear Friends,

Okay, so apparently I'm supposed to write this thing (and/or blog) a lot more often.

I really enjoyed Thanksgiving. I'd rented a hotel room for both Wednesday and Thursday and just relaxed, and got lots of much-needed sleep. I'd been looking forward to ordering delivered Chinese food on Thanksgiving night, but by the time I finished my tasks and called around it was 9:30pm. By 9:53 I had exhausted all efforts as all 4 of the Chinese restaurants the hotel had menus for were closed.

My only remaining option was to order pizza. I chose instead to go to bed with an empty stomach, probably the healthiest thing I've done to my stomach in over a year. So, I didn't overeat for Thanksgiving dinner! I figured better to get another night's sleep in. If I ate late, I'd go to sleep late and on a full stomach. Not good. I'm glad I was kind to myself.

I realized yesterday that all my money in the past 8 months or so have come from my music. Mostly online music sales (Spotify and CD Baby mostly.) It's so interesting to me how I can be constantly feeling or thinking I don't have enough and worried about how to make a living doing what I love when I've been doing it all along and not knowing it. Or maybe not doing it enough.

I have a gig tonight and I've done nothing to promote it. Why is that? I think it's because I was busy focusing on other more urgent things. But now I'm seeing that if music is my livelihood, then nothing is more urgent.

Maybe because it's my gift from God that I should treat it as if nothing is more urgent.

But it's tempting because I really do have major life skill issues and challenges that demand my attention. I know that I'm fortunate enough to be able to do both things. I know that I can take care of my basic survival needs AND do what I need to do to perform and do advance promotion for my performances. To write songs and record them, and do advance promotion for them.

I've never been good at advance promotion of my music. Why is that? I think it's because I never made it a priority. I think I've always assumed it was that I was weak at that and should just delegate the task to someone else who can do it for me. But then I never stuck to the task of finding someone else - all of my efforts have been half assed.

But then, as a persun living with bipolar disorder and trauma-related issues that seriously impact myself, it becomes overwhelming to give my music the proper attention it needs. I have so much to do to just get by day to day being least harmful to myself and others.



Today I am immensely grateful for much, including the things that help me feel inspired and inspire others along the way - these things are therapeutic for me, and include my posts on Facebook http://facebook.com/cassendrexavier and Twitter http://twitter.com/cassendrexavier, my Free 24hr Inspiration Line (215-552-8850), and my Wisdom Magazine monthly or semi-monthly articles at http://tinyurl.com/CXWisdom. At www.wisdom-magazine.com you can read those and other articles. Mine feature various topics, including my special features Soulmate Attraction for the Rest of Us (dating and relationships for the polyamorous, recovering, survivor, and tantric), and Living with Bipolar Disorder (today I submitted my article for December, which is about reconciling loss. I am very excited about it!)

I am writing in my journal every day about various topics.

It feels really good to experience things, and figure out ways to feel better about them, or handle them better, then post online my writings and receive positive feedback about them. Often just releasing the work is enough. I certainly don't do it for the feedback, but the feedback lets me know it's helping someone, and that's an immense reward for me.

Something I'm very happy about is that my ring fits. I have one ring these days and I love it. It hasn't always fit me, depending on my weight, and even though I'm heavier now than I've been lately, somehow the ring has been fitting most days. That makes me happy because it shows that I'm not doing so badly in my eating and lack of exercise as I thought.

Well, I'd love to write more but I have to get my guitar and pack up my CDs and leave soon to go sing for people and bless their hearts with the gift the Good Lord gimme :)



Hope you're being good to yourself today, 'cause who else is more important to do it? No one but you! Everything else is extra!



In art and community,



Cassendre



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Cassendre Xavier

"renaissance negresse"

$15,000 Leeway Transformation Award-Winning musician, writer, and community cultural arts organizer.

Founder & Executive Director of the Black Women's Arts Festival (Est. 2003) and the Women's Writing & Spoken Word Series (Est. 2002).

Official website: http://cassEndrExavier.com

Thursday, November 24, 2016

Friday and Saturday: A Bit of the Arts at 20th Century Club





Come do your holiday shopping in style!
Friday, November 25
6 - 9 pm

Saturday, November 26
10 am - 4 pm

Twentieth Century Club
84 S. Lansdowne Avenue
Lansdowne, PA 19050
MUSIC:

Friday
6 pm - Cassendre Xavier (Main Stage)

7 pm - Joseph Healy (Main Stage)
7 pm - Genni Naklicki (Lower Stage)
8 pm - Gabby Antonini (Main Stage)
 
Saturday
10 am - St. Eugene's School (Main Stage)
10 am - Joseph Healy (Lower Stage)
11 am - Joseph Healy (Main Stage)
12 noon - Moncia Small (Main Stage)
12 noon - Genni Naclicki (Lower Stage)
1 pm - Me3 (Main Stage)
2 pm - Dan Kassel (Main Stage)
2 pm - CG Coats and Glenn Steele (Lower Stage)
3 pm - Rebecca Hollomon (Main Stage)


Free Admission
Live Music - Food
Pottery - Photography
Paper Arts - Painting
Jewelry - Printmaking
Fibers - And More!



EXHIBITING ARTISTS

Maureen Antonini (Vintage Glass Soy Candles)
Elisabeth Barton (Jewelry)
Liz Steele Coats (Sculpture & Jewelry)
Deanna Haldeman (Ceramics)
Alyssa Hummel (Gourmet Canning)
Sohka Lanctot (Henna)
Deb Lane (Ceramics)
Madelyn Lang (Handmade Books)
Helen Liu (Paper and Fibers)
Tamme McClelland (Fiber Arts)
Peter McDaniel (Photography)
Cynthia Mould (Oil Paintings)
Genevieve Naklicki (Embroidered Fibers & Pastels)
Nancy Nalbandian (Jewelry)
Rinal Parikh (Mixed Media)
Bill Patterson (Photography)
Denise Pettit (Mixed Media)
Laura Piontowski (Photography)
Gillian Pokalo (Silkscreen on Acrylics)
Shelly Rabuse (Jewelry)
James Ryan (Watercolors)
Sarah Ryan (Illustration)
Marian Schaner & Leslie Donnelly
(Fiber Arts & Dyed Clothing)
Larry Smalley (Acrylics & Oils)
Shelby Smith (Pottery)
Nicole Snider (Oils and Acrylics)
Helge Speth (Ceramics)
Wellness Now (Massage Therapy)
Katy Winters (Printmaking & Metals)
Bonnie's Wondergardens (Floral Design)
Scott Halford
St. Thomas School
 

Catering by:
Kia's Cakes & Gourmet Goodies
7th Avenue Grill


Student Artists:
Ardmore Avenue School • B. Reed Henderson
BVM • St. Eugene's • St. Laurence School


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Friday, November 18, 2016

2 new essays at my erotic blog!

Dear Friends!

Please enjoy new (nonfiction) writing "No Bed for you - Get on the Floor!" and "​"You're Not Really Very Dominant" (My 1st Crossdresser)" at my erotic blog http://amritawaterfalls.blogspot.com. Don't say I didn't warn ya!
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Make yourself a beautiful day!

Cassendre Xavier

"renaissance negresse"

$15,000 Leeway Transformation Award-Winning musician, writer, and community cultural arts organizer.

Founder & Executive Director of the Black Women's Arts Festival (Est. 2003) and the Women's Writing & Spoken Word Series (Est. 2002).

Official website: http://cassEndrExavier.com

Wednesday, November 9, 2016

Stay in the Moment - Stay Positive

Be careful not to let fear and worry about things that haven't happened, ruin your days and nights. Stay in the moment, and empower yourself and those around you with positive thoughts and necessary action. As my friend Sue Shaffer says, "I have everything I need right now to be happy." And if you pause and think about it, right now this second, you probably do, too.
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Make yourself a beautiful day!

Cassendre Xavier

"renaissance negresse"

$15,000 Leeway Transformation Award-Winning musician, writer, and community cultural arts organizer.

Founder & Executive Director of the Black Women's Arts Festival (Est. 2003) and the Women's Writing & Spoken Word Series (Est. 2002).

Official website: http://cassEndrExavier.com

Sunday, November 6, 2016

Living from Our Hearts will Transform Our World

Where I most want to live is inside and from my heart; I want to be happy, I want to feel free and safe, and I want to really know and feel that wherever I am, I belong. I can give that to myself a little more every day, and I invite you to join me, because this is the kind of thing that will transform our world. Thank you!
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Make yourself a beautiful day!

Cassendre Xavier

"renaissance negresse"

$15,000 Leeway Transformation Award-Winning musician, writer, and community cultural arts organizer.

Founder & Executive Director of the Black Women's Arts Festival (Est. 2003) and the Women's Writing & Spoken Word Series (Est. 2002).

Official website: http://cassEndrExavier.com

Wednesday, November 2, 2016

Living with Bipolar Disorder: Women's Issues & Needs

Please enjoy my new Wisdom Magazine article "Living with Bipolar Disorder: Women's Issues & Needs" http://wisdom-magazine.com/Article.aspx/4362/. (Archives of my WM articles since 2009: http://tinyurl.com/CXWisdom)
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Make yourself a beautiful day!

Cassendre Xavier

"renaissance negresse"

$15,000 Leeway Transformation Award-Winning musician, writer, and community cultural arts organizer.

Founder & Executive Director of the Black Women's Arts Festival (Est. 2003) and the Women's Writing & Spoken Word Series (Est. 2002).

Official website: http://cassEndrExavier.com