Monday, November 30, 2015

Soulmate Attraction: Celebrate Sweetness!

No matter your circumstances, you can always increase the sweetness in your life. Surround yourself with images, even fragrances, that remind you of when you've had romance, companionship, and excitement with a partner. 
 I just lit a stick of my favorite incense, and took a whiff of a clove cigarette. The incense brought me back to my happiest times with my late partner, and the clove was a recent meeting of a gentlemen, who smoked one as we spoke. I didn't want to smoke it with him, but did ask for one, to enjoy the moment and the fragrance later. 
 When you surround yourself with little reminders of sweetness and romance, it puts you more in the headspace and heartspace of attracting it. It makes you happy and feel good, and that makes you most attractive!

~Cassendre Xavier


Cassendre is the author of the Soulmate Attraction for the Rest of Us series and forthcoming book of the same title. You can read the latest article here: http://wisdom-magazine.com/Article.aspx/4084 and that and similar article archives at http://wisdom-magazine.com/ArticleArchives.aspx?author=Cassendre+Xavier

No Ambivalence! (Or: Ambivalence, Bad!)

Ambivalence hurts everyone. 
Decide what you want and go for it.

~Cassendre Xavier
renaissance negresse


Sunday, November 29, 2015

Addicted to Judge Judy!

Dear Baby Jesus, Please help me do more work than watch The Judge Judies. Thank you.

Goddess Sundays: Power of Goddess Journaling

Do not wait to find the perfect books to teach you about the Goddess. Much of Goddess' wisdom was created before there were books, but was passed through the ages, heart to knowing and feeling heart. You may access this wisdom by beginning a "goddess journal." Either a Goddess Journal by itself or incorporating some Goddess writing in your general all-purpose daily journal or diary will be sufficient. Begin to use this, and Her secrets will be revealed to you. Woman, man (or other), this truth is available to all who seek Her.

​~Cassendre Xavier
renaissance negress
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Ordained Interfaith Minister since September 2010​

​(c) Copyright 2015. All rights reserved.​

Goddess Sundays: The Goddess & Acceptance

​The Goddess is all about acceptance. We see this in childbirth and childcare, for example.  No matter how painful, wimmin and other female creatures (besides the greatly troubled ones), accept their lot, and breathe through it all to birth and care for their creations. If we need to take three jobs to support our children or other creative projects, without the aid of male support, we will and we do it with much beauty, grace, and above all, acceptance.
 So, if you are seeking to be more accepting of certain aspects of your life, call upon the  Goddess who will show you how. Woman, man (or other), this truth is available to all who seek Her.​

​~Cassendre Xavier
renaissance negresse

​(c) Copyright 2015. All rights reserved.​

Friday, November 27, 2015

The Power of Less (Never Live Without a Deadline Again)

Transforming your life is equal parts what you take out of your daily, weekly, and monthly schedule as what you put in. So, when you're making your To Do List, also include notices to individuals and organizations that you are no longer going to be doing what you were doing. Your much improved life is awaiting these changes, and unloading what isn't serving your Divine life purpose can be exhilarating!​

CASSENDRE XAVIER
Never Live Without a Deadline Again

Thursday, November 26, 2015

Treating Bipolar Naturally: Lithium Orotate

DID YOU KNOW?
 There's a natural, organic, non-toxic mineral supplement used successfully for people with Bipolar, PTSD, depression, and anxiety? It's a nutrient, not a drug!

I learned it on The YouTubes! Now, I'm considering weaning myself off of lamictal/lamotrigine and switch!
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Make yourself a beautiful day!

Cassendre Xavier
(aka Amethyste Rah, aka Amrita Waterfalls)
"renaissance negresse & ARTrepreneur"
(musician/writer/actress/fine artist)
$15,000 Leeway Transformation Award-Winning founder & executive director of the Black Women's Arts Festival (Est. 2003 http://BWAFphilly.org) and the Women's Writing & Spoken Word Series (Est. 2002 http://WomensWritingSeries.org). 
Musical & guided meditation albums and tracks:
Yoga Classes & Writings: http://bit.ly/1VQZZxU 
Official website: http://cassendrexavier.com

Wednesday, November 25, 2015

My Yoga Class Cancelled Tonight for Holiday!

Hello, Dear Friends!

I just received clearance to cancel my "Empowering Affirmations Yoga" class tonight. I'm feeling cold and sad because of tomorrow's holiday, and I also didn't want to go and wait to a possibly empty room due to the folks being out of town. But I didn't want to cancel if other Ahimsa House yoga teachers were still teaching today... 
 So I asked and learned that "folks are canceling classes as they wish for the holidays and we're not asking for substituting teachers because so many folks are out of town". So, whoo-hoo!!!
 Not that I don't absolutely LOVE my "Empowering Affirmations Yoga" class, mind you, but I just would prefer not to go out into the cold tonight, and stay in and write (I just submitted my Wisdom Magazine December submission by the way, whoo-hoo!).

All for now and next time my yoga class meets is Wednesday, December 9th, 7:30pm-8:45pm, at Ahimsa House in West Philadelphia http://AhimsaHousePhilly.org.

Hope to see you (or feel your positive vibeage comin' our way) there!


In healing and community,

Cassendre


[Pictured from left to right: Myself, lecturers and workshop presenters Kai R. Oceans, and Dr. Sunlight Little, at my "Empowering Affirmations Yoga" presentation at the 9th Black Women's Arts Festival, October 24-25, 2015 at The Rotunda http://TheRotunda.org, in West Philly. Photo credit: Gina Renzi, Director of The Rotunda.]

Monday, November 23, 2015

Collards Washed in Tub & Iced Tea Horror Story

Someone posted this image on Facebook of collard greens being washed in somebody's bathtub, with the caption "No, thanks, I'm good." 

There were plenty of comments, mostly people saying that's why they don't eat at strangers' homes (recalling the Seinfeld episode in which Kramer washes his dishes in the shower). Some did say they grew up on the South or with lots of siblings and saw greens being washed in the tub, having shared often in this task themselves.
 They said their grandma would just clean the tub really well. I can attest to this, as I know my grandmothers were very clean, too.

I added to this thread, the following experience from years back:

Here's a story for ya. One time I went to a new friend's friend's house for dinner. Me, her, her female friend and that female friend's husband. We sat at the table and ate food that was there - plates, silverware - everything looked normal. Then, the female host went to the fridge and brought out a translucent white pitcher of amber liquid that appeared to be iced tea. She brought it to the table and we proceeded to pour it. It was indeed iced tea - sweetened. 
We ate and had occasionally strange conversation in which the host likened herself to Christ, mentioning having honey and milk in her mouth...etc. My new friend confirmed that she was indeed implying that she was the Messiah. You know, the usual!?
After our meal, that female host then stood, went to get the iced tea pitcher and one by one, emptied the contents of our iced tea glasses back into that pitcher, and then returned that pitcher to the refrigerator. 
Now, knowing that I may have drunk the backwash of any number of strangers, I was convinced that was the horror story of the year.
(You're welcome!)

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Make yourself a beautiful day!

Cassendre Xavier
(aka Amethyste Rah, aka Amrita Waterfalls)
"renaissance negresse & ARTrepreneur"
(musician/writer/actress/fine artist)
$15,000 Leeway Transformation Award-Winning founder & executive director of the Black Women's Arts Festival (Est. 2003 http://BWAFphilly.org) and the Women's Writing & Spoken Word Series (Est. 2002 http://WomensWritingSeries.org). 
Musical & guided meditation albums and tracks:
Yoga Classes & Writings: http://bit.ly/1VQZZxU 
Official website: http://cassendrexavier.com

Today I Rise - Inspiring Short Film for Wimmin

Today I Rise - an inspiring short film for women, girls, and everyone else who can identify. Special thanks to the persun who sent it to me :) http://www.filmsforaction.org/watch/today-i-rise

Sunday, November 22, 2015

Soulmate Attraction for the Rest of Us: Feeling & Being

SOULMATE ATTRACTION FOR THE REST OF US
You find the love you want more by feeling and 
by being than by seeking or doing.

Cassendre Xavier
Wisdom Magazine webzine columnist since 2009
Article archives: 

Goddess Sundays: Innate Memory

GODDESS SUNDAYS
Much of HERstory remains innately within each humyn. Common sense, meditation, and visualization will recall your memory of Her.

~Cassendre Xavier
renaissance negresse

Friday, November 20, 2015

Messages from the Angels: My Bipolar & Creative Focus

Dear Friends,


I journal daily, including writing to my angels for divine guidance, angelic healing and emotional support. This time, I asked them about this feeling I'd been getting to write a new series of articles based on my yoga class. I thought it would be wise to ask them whether I should or not, instead of just bounding ahead with it. Being homeless after ignoring my bipolar disorder for over a decade, it's a lot easier these days to remember the damage that can come from my just starting projects that are unfounded or not connected to what I am really hear for, which, actually, isn't always clear to me, believe it or not. Thanks, Bipolar Disorder!


Cassendre


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19 November 2015 - Thursday evening at 9:45pm


Dear Angels,


Should I write an "Empowering Affirmations Yoga" series as part of my Wisdom Magazine column?


Answer:


Yes, if it serves your highest vision at this time. We ask you to recall your dreamiest childhood and adolescent fantasies of playing and singing music under the lights onstage, of acting in films, and in television, of always having lights on you, of meeting exciting new friends and lovers through your successful music and acting careers.

These are your lifelong dreams - your truest and strongest talents and magnetisms are there. Yes, you are a very good writer. Yes you are a healer. Yes, you have served and inspired and motivated others through your writing. Yes, writing also heals you.

Remember that musicians and actors who also write became successful at their primary crafts first: Jill Scott, Jewel, Russell Brand, Bob Geldof.

You must do all you can to remain focused on and successful in your primary crafts of music and acting as well.

If along the way you discover that writing is higher than acting, we will help you make the transition. Now, though, we will help you focus on your primary gift of music, support you in taking steps to engage in acting, and help you gently decrease and writing activities that don't fully qualify as supporting your primary goals of music and acting.


Cassendre: But I feel that I'm much more of a writer than an actress.


Answer: We love you and gently ask: How do you know?

You've done so little acting. And how do you know that doing more acting won't open up money-making and exposure opportunities that will allow you to do all three much more easily, joyfully, and efficiently?

We love you and again urge you to work with us to help you focus more upon your music first, and your acting second. We love you and we implore you to try.

Remember that as a persun with Bipolar Disorder it can be very hard for you to sit still long enough to do the right things and take the right steps in pursuing your goals as they involve fulfilling your Divine life purpose.

We are here because we love you and are very eager and equipped to support you in doing what you need to do so.


You need:


  1. Bipolar medication

  2. Regular psychotherapy

  3. Yoga

  4. Other exercise

  5. Healthy foods


You also need:


  1. Friendship

  2. Daily journaling of your feelings

  3. Daily writing to us

  4. Meditation in any forms and amounts



We are here because we love you and we are equipped to support you in fulfilling your Divine life purpose.


May you say well and know you are loved until we speak again.


Angel,

~Love Angels


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Make yourself a beautiful day!

Cassendre Xavier
(aka Amethyste Rah, aka Amrita Waterfalls)
"renaissance negresse & ARTrepreneur"
(musician/writer/actress/fine artist)
$15,000 Leeway Transformation Award-Winning founder & executive director of the Black Women's Arts Festival (Est. 2003 http://BWAFphilly.org) and the Women's Writing & Spoken Word Series (Est. 2002 http://WomensWritingSeries.org). 
Musical & guided meditation albums and tracks:
Yoga Classes & Writings: http://bit.ly/1VQZZxU 
Official website: http://cassendrexavier.com

What the renaissance negresse is doing NOW!

Dear Friends,

I am pleased and proud to announce my participation in CD Baby founder Derek Sivers' "NOW" Project. 
 This helps people stay focused on what we're doing NOW.

Here's my page where you can find out what I'm doing NOW: https://cassendrexavier.wordpress.com/now/

Here's what Derek is doing NOW: https://sivers.org/now

And here's what lots of other folks are doing NOW: http://nownownow.com/

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Make yourself a beautiful day!

Cassendre Xavier
(aka Amethyste Rah, aka Amrita Waterfalls)
"renaissance negresse & ARTrepreneur"
(musician/writer/actress/fine artist)
$15,000 Leeway Transformation Award-Winning founder & executive director of the Black Women's Arts Festival (Est. 2003 http://BWAFphilly.org) and the Women's Writing & Spoken Word Series (Est. 2002 http://WomensWritingSeries.org). 
Musical & guided meditation albums and tracks:
Yoga Classes & Writings: http://bit.ly/1VQZZxU 
Official website: http://cassendrexavier.com

Wednesday, November 18, 2015

Messages from the Angels: Angel of Love

To you Beloveds who are seeking:


We love you so much. We are all One and being that love is most important of all we are called Angel, singular.

As angels of love we are one here and there to hold you up when you feel most afraid and most despondent. There is no we who are not with you in these times of great pain and discomfort for you. We do not even know how to be apart from you during these very difficult times.

We have been on earth since before earth existed. We have been with you since before you were conceived.

We fully understand your experience of life on the earth plane because we have chosen to be so close to you as to know this on a very deep and real level.

Come to us in your minds and you will feel our always there and never far presence.

When you call upon us it will be as if we were already there, and you simply remembered to beckon us.

In truth you will simply be reminding yourself of our existence near and in fact within you.

We are here and we love you. We are here to remind you that you are truly very and deeply loved. Accept our love and glow on your merry way.


Until we meet again in your thoughts and in your heart...


~Angel

Love, Angel


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(c) Copyright 2015 by Cassendre Xavier. All rights reserved.

Dear Goddesses (A Prayer)

Dear Goddess(es),

Please help me become one of You.
Please help me become more of myself.
Please help me write about this experience of my journey to the Goddess/female spirituality.
Please help me show others how they, too, can access female strength through Spirit.
 Please help me represent You in the best way.

Your Daughter, 

Cassendre (among other names which You well Know)

Pic Quote: Yoga Lifesaving Floatation Device

Sometimes when in transit I hold my yoga mat like it's a lifesaving floatation device, because it is.  
~Cassendre Xavier

Teacher, Empowering Affirmations Yoga

​Next class: Wednesday, November 24th, 2045
7:30pm-8:45pm

Free (suggested donation to Ahimsa House: $7 per class)


Tuesday, November 17, 2015

Put Turmeric in Your Orange Juice!

I just discovered that the strong taste of orange juice is a perfect mask for the strong taste of turmeric. I am in love with turmeric these days - can't get enough of it. I put it in my nonfat vanilla yogurt, I put it in water with apple cider vinegar, and cayenne pepper as a tonic. I put it in my salads, I even sprinkle it on a big bowl of mangoes - I just love, love, LOVE the stuff!
 
Here is my recipe for the Turmeric-Infused OJ I just enjoyed!

12 oz. filtered or spring water
20 oz orange juice (store-bought, but NOT from concentrate, although concentrate's just fine if you're into that stuff!)
3/4 teaspoon turmeric

Shake and enjoy the sweet country goodness!

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Make yourself a beautiful day!

Cassendre Xavier
(aka Amethyste Rah, aka Amrita Waterfalls)
"renaissance negresse & ARTrepreneur"
(musician/writer/actress/fine artist)
$15,000 Leeway Transformation Award-Winning founder & executive director of the Black Women's Arts Festival (Est. 2003 http://BWAFphilly.org) and the Women's Writing & Spoken Word Series (Est. 2002 http://WomensWritingSeries.org). 
Musical & guided meditation albums and tracks:
Yoga Classes & Writings: http://bit.ly/1VQZZxU 
Official website: http://cassendrexavier.com

Singing in Lansdowne this Saturday!

CASSENDRE XAVIER
sings at the final Lansdowne Farmer's Market of 2015
Saturday Nov. 21st
10:30am-12:30pm
Free!

Sunday, November 15, 2015

Survivor's Corner: Compulsive Overeating as Self-Harm

Dear Survivor:

If you were abused as a child, it's very important to acknowledge the trauma you experienced, get help for it, and keep getting that help until your life looks like you're over it. Saying you're over it means nothing if you're exhibiting the symptoms of otherwise.
 
 If you're a healing artist, don't be afraid or ashamed to discuss difficulties you're having. Your audience needs to know what you're going through, so they can not only be updated on your journey, but also wish you well (or better), and perhaps identify and learn from you.

 If you're a spiritual persun who tries to be positive all the time, don't be afraid of saying not so pleasant things for fear of manifesting them. Telling the truth about a painful experience helps dull the pain, and sharpen the senses for what may bring relief.

I have eaten in the past 24 hours an entire huge loaf of African bread. White bread, high in fat and sodium. I've eaten too much fat, too much food, and I feel my blood pressure thumping in my brain, affecting my vision, and giving me tension headaches. I feel absolutely miserable. 
 And this happened mostly because I didn't make the time in the past week to buy fruit. That's it. Oh, and I didn't go to the gym enough. Apparently, if I don't eat plenty of fruit AND exercise, I go off the deep end. Who knew I'd be so high maintenance?
 
Survivors are children who haven't grown ourselves up yet. We were reared in a partly dysfunctional way, and we need to replace that portion of our lives with the way we want to rear ourselves. We have to re-parent ourselves, and this isn't something that happens only for a few years of our lives - this is a lifelong journey. 

I have long suffered from an eating disorder (compulsive overeating). I can recall being about 7 years old and "caught" by my uncle, eating too much bread. I put 27 years into a 12 Step group for people with compulsive eating behaviors, before I left it to discover and create my own program of healing and recovery, inspired in large part by raw vegan foods, which alone and in a few months provided better results than all those years in that other "program". 

 I was watching today some YouTube about a famous family of singing siblings, whose father allegedly raped and beat them. Later, most of them became addicted to drugs, and several of them passed away from that.

I believe when you're abused as a child by a parent, you develop such a sense of self-hatred, shame, and guilt, you just don't want to exist anymore. The pain is so deep, and often it isn't as much from the abusing parent as it is from the parent who did not or could not protect you. 

I believe that my overeating is about rage. I believe that overeating is slow suicide. I believe that I'm tired of all the work that it takes to be well. 
 Just to be well I have to schedule so much - grocery shopping, exercise. 

But I also see that I want to do this work. I see that I haven't been doing it. I only just discovered that I need this. 

I didn't know before how important it is for me to plan my meals AND exercise. 

When you decide you want or need something, you begin to see ways that you can create it for yourself. And you become willing to do whatever it takes to reach your new goals.

For me, I see I'm going to have to make some changes in my busy schedule. I'm going to have to prioritize my wellness, and make that as important in my datebook as my office time.

I don't know that this post necessarily has a theme, and it's been challenging to find a title for it.
 
I do know that it's good that as I sit here with a belly too full, and feeling acidic and uncomfortable - sad, I also know that it's very good I'm writing about this, and about to hit "send". 

I used to write more about my difficulties with food and similar behavioral issues. And even now, as I know there are people reading who I may not necessarily want to read this - I can't be focused on them. 

I have to focus on the fact that I can't keep carrying this on my own.
The same way my hand-written journal has been my utmost confidante and shrink-between-shrink-sessions, I must reclaim my blog and make it the portal to my healing through sharing.

I can only continue to hope and intend that these words reach you whom are seeking to hear such things - and hope I've helped make your day a little better, if not brighter.

Blessings, hope, and self-care to you,

Cassendre
​Founder of Sisters Healing Together: A Peer Support Group for Women Survivors of Incest with a Special Focus on Compulsive Overeating (William Way Community Center, Philadelphia 1996-1999)
Creator of the "Affirmations for Survivors" guided meditation series by Amethyste Rah (aka CX)​

Goddess Sundays: Louise Nevelson was her own goddess...

​"She was her own goddess. And, it isn't every artist who is her own goddess." Artist Robert Indiana on sculptor Louise Nevelson​


Friday, November 13, 2015

Song link: I Don't Wanna Wait (Any Longer) Extended Play

Please enjoy my song:

I Don't Wanna Wait (Any Longer) Extended Play (It has almost no lyrics and is only 11 minutes and 22 seconds long. You know... The usual!) ;) Co-produced by my brother Giz Matic (Giscard Xavier) and from my latest (2015) album HOPE. http://cassendrexavier.bandcamp.com/track/i-dont-wanna-wait-any-longer-extended-play

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Make yourself a beautiful day!

Cassendre Xavier
(aka Amethyste Rah, aka Amrita Waterfalls)
"renaissance negresse & ARTrepreneur"
(musician/writer/actress/fine artist)
$15,000 Leeway Transformation Award-Winning founder & executive director of the Black Women's Arts Festival (Est. 2003 http://BWAFphilly.org) and the Women's Writing & Spoken Word Series (Est. 2002 http://WomensWritingSeries.org). 
Musical & guided meditation albums and tracks:
Yoga Classes & Writings: http://bit.ly/1VQZZxU 
Official website: http://cassendrexavier.com

Wednesday, November 11, 2015

Quote: Becoming a Good Romantic Partner

Half the fun of finding a good romantic partner is doing what it takes to become one yourself. ~Cassendre Xavier

Soulmate Attraction for the Rest of Us: Dating & Relationships for the Polyamorous, Recovering, Survivor & Tantric



Saturday, November 7, 2015

AWAKEN Healing Expo Today!

Dear Friends!

 I will be at this event today (from 12noonish to 6-ish), enjoying, volunteering, and being available to do or talk about my Angel, Ancestor, Spirit Guide & Soulmate Readings (and so will my work partner Kai R. Oceans, who does those plus Aura Readings)! Join us if you feel so inclined! https://www.facebook.com/events/470408989787294


Details:
We're overjoyed to announce the AWAKEN Healing Expo! This is our biggest and favorite event of the year, created to allow you to experience multiple healing arts by amazing, gifted, and local practitioners at a very affordable cost. Enjoy, learn, and heal on the level perfect for you. Please mark your calendar and join us for this amazing day of loving energy! 

The Healing Expo offers FREE Admission, FREE Talks, and an ALL DAY Group Event Pass for only $10. Healing sessions are $20 each and 3 for only $40. Book your session now from one of 30 amazing practitioners.

Group events include: 
• Sound Healing Journeys 
• Angelic Messages 
• Meditations 
• Hug Workshop 
• and More

Practitioners include: 
• Angelic Light Healing & Activation by Simona Manenti 
• Crystal Skull Healing & Activation by Colleen Paraboschi 
• Light Body Activation by Anita Mayberry 
• Reiki by Glenda Smith 
• Readings with Connie Bell-Dixon 
• and Much More!

Schedule Your Healings Now! For full details and advanced booking, visit:

http://www.HealingExpo.org/

This is a charity event to help raise money for Awaken and introduce you to practitioners and vendors in the area. We'll also be selling food, so you can stay for the day. Please share the details and pass on the gift of peace and healing with the people you know and love. We look forward to seeing you there 0:)