Saturday, April 5, 2014

Prayer/Intention: Let Me Be a Blessing

Prayer/Intention: Let Me Be a Blessing

by Cassendre Xavier 

There’s not a job or other difficult circumstance dealing with people that can’t be helped by asking to be a blessing to others.


I was thinking about this as I was washing a few dishes moments ago. I say “a few” because I only did the essentials and left the rest for later. Even though I’m very happy intellectually today, I am a little irritable. (At first, I’d written “for some reason, I’m a little irritable”. Then I remembered Hello --- I’m bipolar! That’s a “mood disorder”, yo! I could spend an hour trying to pin-point why I’m irritable or I can go about making myself feel better. Takes less time since the object of trying to figure it out is making myself feel better eventually. So, anyway, where was I? Oh yeah…)

 I usually love washing dishes, but I was hungry – there’s the reason – got it! I was hungry and waiting for my food to be heated. Another reason, I was trying to rush to get back upstairs before the other members of my host family arrivicated (aka “arrivized”).

 Drying classes very carefully and slowly was frustrating the beejesus out of me. Henceforth the mood.

 Then I remembered what I used to tell myself when I was at a difficult job years ago, “Let me be a blessing.” So, I said that and felt much better. Totally better. Mood gone. Much less prone to dishbreakage. Not rushing, not worried, not stressed. Just relaxed. I imagined how my host family won’t have to wash the younger child’s plastic cups the next time she wants a drink – they’ll be ready to grab and use. (It’s the little things!)




Years ago I was working as a server at a black-owned restaurant. I forget exactly what about it was difficult the first few weeks – I think it was a combination of my anxiety about the historically documented notoriously and commonly known fact that the melanin-enriched among us are not necessarily always educated in the skill of tippery (aka “tippation”) (case in point I was working at a different black-owned restaurant and once another server and I worked a table of 20 together, all of whom left a total tip equaling just a little over one measly dollar. Needless to say I wasn’t there for long.)

 So, anyway, that, plus the usual difficulties of training at a new job. No matter how dreamy it is, the first two weeks are going to be a little challenging.

 So it was at this job. I was getting used to the people, the tips, the travel, and I was stressed and not happy. It was cold, the commute was long, I’d fallen off the raw vegan wagon. I was miserable.

 One day when I woke up I got the idea to pray, “Let me be a blessing,” at the job. I put it out to the universe that I was a blessing to every one there, and that day and every day after that, I believe I was. And more importantly, my attitude changed the instant I said that prayer.


So, try it. When you’re in a tough spot, and it involves working with or living with other folks – put it out there that you want to be a blessing to others. Set the intention, say the prayer, ask the universe.


Your prayer will be answered and your life will be changed, one moment, one experience, one day, and one heart at a time.


Make yourself a beautiful day!

Cassendre Xavier
(aka Amethyste Rah, aka Amrita Waterfalls)
“renaissance negresse & ARTrepreneur”
(musician/writer/actress/fine artist)

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