Tuesday, April 24, 2012

ME! ME! ME! CX Museletter "Bliss Followage" ediccione

ME! ME! ME! A Cassendre Xavier Museletter The "Bliss Followage" ediccione, as it were. (If you will.) Monday, April 23, 2012 "Living with power isn't about having no setbacks. It's about using your power to set aside the setbacks and continue moving forward and upward." ~Cassendre Xavier, (aka Amethyste Rah, aka Amrita Waterfalls), renaissance negresse Dear friendlings and famlettes, I trust this museletter finds you doing well. I am taking each day as it comes, living the material for the last 2 of my 4 part "Affirmations for Survivors" spoken word guided meditation series, "Sexuality" and "Life Skills." (The first 2 "Affirmations for Survivors: Self-Love", and "Affirmations for Survivors: Spirituality" were released in August 2007 and until recently were available for sale as CD and MP3 download at www.lulu.com. I've since found out that account is no longer current (Yay! One less unrewarding responsibility gone!), but those CDs are still available directly through me, and at some point, at CD Baby where my other (music) CDs are http://tinyurl.com/CXCDbaby. I am not sure what exactly is going on with me these, days, but I do know that it's directly affected by my diet (I've been eating lots of cooked food and more meat than before, much less raw vegan foods), my self-care (I've stopped exercising, stopped going to my eating disorder recovery group meetings, etc.), and by my busier social schedule (I am seeing several people in different cities). I am realizing lately that I want to get back to the place I was when I believed in my own success. When I followed my bliss without doubt. When I felt I could be happy and I had no shame in making myself so. I'm talking about my creative life here, not my romantic life, which seems to know no bounds, and for that I am truly grateful. What I'm trying to do is parlay that lack of blockery units (aka "blockation") into my understanding of what's possible for me in the way of professional possibilities and prosperity of kinds other than romantic/sexual. It takes courage to be who one is. Perhaps I only have enough courage for one area of expression of my life at a time. This statement doesn't ring true to me - it hurts in my belly when I write it so I know it's not true. I sense I have courage enough for fuller bliss in all areas of my life. And I'm working towards that. I take it when we decide we want something, the Universe steps in and says, "Yeah? You really mean it?" Then prove it!" And that's when the tests come. I experience tremendous pleasure in one area of my life, then BOOM! Here comes a breakdown here. Then bliss another area, and BAM! Breakdown there. What's the meaning of all this? I am trying to learn my lessons through joy rather than struggle now. That's from http://orindaben.com. Yet, I understand that life is part joy and part pain. That's from a hit song. Apparently, life is full of sunshine and rain as well, according to that song. http://Abraham-Hicks.com teaches that we are "deliberate creators" and that we use "contrast" to know what we want. Through Abe-Hicks' teachings of the law of attraction I am trying to feel as good as I can all the time. I know this works, because I experience it. And I know it works because I do believe that feeling good is a godly state; it's the closest we in our physical states can get to our Source. And this is why I know the food is jacking me UP. Because raw vegan food feels good in every direction. Yes, I mean that, too. Just because I can. Sorry :-) Anyway, I don't want this to be a long letter. I wrote it because I needed to, as therapy. My cell phone was stolen today. I was busking and charged it a distance from me, then forgot to pack it up. When I returned less than an hour later, it was gone. I did the usual lost and found business but I know that thing is gone. I am soooo grateful that the Cassendre of today didn't stay in a funky feeling place for too long. In the olden days I probably would've spent the entire night and maybe even he next day angry and upset about it. Now, I don't think I was even upset for a whole hour. And I know someday that will be even less. Here's some of what I did: I thought about how it actually happened: I was distracted. I forgot. I wasn't paying attention. I thought about how maybe I made it happen subconsciously: I was self-sabotaging. Maybe I'm feeling "too happy" in my relationships and am trying to suck things up a bit so that I'm miserable more. I was avoiding seeing one of my sweeties, because I'm feeling overwhelmed and maybe don't know how to say no. I was trying to remove a responsibility from my often overwhelming-feeling life (these days). But those self-blaming thoughts felt bad, and I know now that whenever something feels bad it's not true to my highest being. It isn't real, so I needn't pay any attention to it. I thought of other possibilities and was led to them by how I felt... I thought about how I created this to learn beautiful lessons and grow into my chosen places: I am learning that I can choose my feelings at all times. I am learning to not be angry so easily. I am learning to release feelings of resentment, fear, doubt, and worry. I am learning not to be at the whim of circumstances. And how lovely that I chose my very old, very inexpensive phone to learn this lesson! Those thoughts made me feel much better, and I knew they were true! More thoughts came: I don't have to worry about this. So, I've lost my phone, so what - or rather it was stolen. Okay. That happened. Good for whoever has it. They have a new toy for a few minutes. What can I do. Let me call and suspend service (I did). Let me not worry about anything. ANYTHING at all. I'm not worried about how I'm going to get a new phone. I'm not resentful that I'm paying for service I'm not using. I'm not worried. This is a gift. And I'm willing to see it as such. What else is in this gift? I realized that for the last couple of weeks I've been thinking "I need a new phone". This one is low on storage, it's kinda annoying to always have to delete texts immediately upon receipt because I don't have room to hold more. Wow! I've been manifesting a new phone and I didn't even know it, because I wasn't doing it directly! But I was. I was thinking a lot of about the fact that I would sometime soon have a new phone. I just didn't know how it was going to happen. I put out the call, albeit unwittingly. I corrected worry thoughts: Oh no! I have risque pictures of myself in that phone! That one was easy: Good! They'll give someone a thrill! Then another thought: Oh, no! What if someone publicizes those pics? Another easy one: Good! They'll give my fans and enemies a thrill! Bad press is still good press, especially for a black female singer who has no interest whatsoever in running for public office! Look what it did for Vanessa Williams? Can YOU name another Miss America? Didn't think so :-) Nah, those pics would only do me good, especially in my work as Amrita Waterfalls http://AmritaWaterfalls.blogspot.com ;-) So, there you have it, folks. My day went from kinda challenging (started early with 1st day of day job - you know how those go - the training, the stress, etc., to busking afterwards - on my tooties all day - from 8am-7pm) to pretty sucky (phone stolen), to pretty darn good (having this opportunity to recognize my progress as a student of law of attraction)! Right now I am grateful that I trust I will soon have a phone, I am grateful that I passed muster at my first day of paid training to return as staff to my new day job tomorrow, I am grateful to have had a wonderful conversation with my professional writer friend Christopher Sebastian McJettershttps://www.facebook.com/christopher.mcjetters, who gave me such good advice about my writing. I told him that I have so much I want to say and share, but I'm afraid of how to do it. I don't want to take the time to create a manuscript and then do a book proposal and try to find an agent a publishing deal, although I feel confident I will have a deal soon. And I didn't want to just blog and waste my work by putting it out there for free and possible plagiarism and others using it to make money for themselves. He told me that most people do blog, and that you want to create value for others, then your value will be recognized and compensated. He said that the cream always rises to the top, and that if you're creating and sharing something that folks want, you can't help but succeed. I believe that's true. I've been trying to muster up the gumption lately to release my fears of having my work not valued. But a truth kept sneaking up on me, "Give it away." That's what kept coming up over and over again. And Sebastian confirmed that for me when he said the same words, "You've just got to give it away." And we ended up singing the Red Hot Chili Peppers song. Not the whole song, just the chorus. And then a little of the "Whatcha got you gotta give it to your mama. Whatcha got you gotta give it to your papa," you know, that part. That part is cool as shite, man. Anyway, where was I? Yeah, I'm thinkin' I'm gonna start giving it away. Man, that's gonna be challenging for this jaded, burnt-out beeotch. But you know what? Methinks mayhap all's I need is a little o' ye olde hair o' of the dog that bit Moi. Yeah. I think I was so "ARTrepreneur" oriented of years recent that I don't know what it's like to give something away on a grand scale and NOT WORRY that it won't be appreciated. I think it will help greatly that I'm gainfully employed in a steady paycheck way, that doesn't rely on how many ebooks, iTunes or CDs I sell. Let me share some of what my Lady Friend shared with me a few minutes ago regarding handling breakdowns. She's an Abraham-Hicks student and fan, as I am: I was feeling bad about my stolen cell phone, so I decided to try to feel better. What helps is to think about good-feeling things and to ask others to share good-feeling thoughts, etc. So I texted a few loved ones, including Lady Friend (LF) CX: Tell me something good, plz :-) Me first: I made my quota & get to go back to work my new job tomorrow! 7:39 PM Lady Friend (LF): Yay! And "like a treasure found at home" revere the teachers that really irk us (stolen phone) as it is them that help us the most by giving us a reason to practice! 7:41 PM CX: Thank you. I am also helped by the lesson of choosing to learn thru joy rather than struggle http://orindaben.com, which this contrast reminds me of :-) 7:43 PM LF: If we want to work on being less angry, patient, fearful, etc, what happens is those things get even BIGGER than before we vowed to work on 'em!! So, perhaps you will find this is something you can get a lot of mileage out of? How's that :) 7:45 PM CX: Really? I thought if I worked on learning thru joy, that's what I would get - more joy? 7:45 PM LF: It means that you just begin to SEE more where you aren't patient, etc. 7:46 PM CX: I AM getting a lot of mileage from these "contrasting" situations." My vision is definitely getting clearer. 7:47 PM LF: Yep. Easy to be easy when things are easy :) Not so easy when they aren't 7:48 PM LF: I just found some helpful stuff online from Abe-folks on LOA & breakdowns. I'll email it to u and say gnight now. Thx again :-) 7:52 PM Here's that email I sent to Lady Friend (LF): From an AbeForum website: "Abraham has stated that we don't want a peaceful river, where there isn't much flowing going. If that were the case, we wouldn't be propeled to grow. And the propulsion, to experience greater joys in this life, comes from the contrast. Some of my greatest growths in my life came from contrast. I think, though, as we get a hang of this deliberate creator stuff (grin), our work is to find a way to manage the contrast before it gets too big. It's the big manifestations (car accidents and stuff) that get our attention, as well as our pocket books to pay for cleaning up all that (grin), but they don't have to get that big, if we consistently manage our point of attraction. Contrast is what propels us forward, and we just have to learn how to manage it, along our ride on this Journey called Life." CX: Hope you liked that - I did :-) So, this is why I called this issue "Bliss Followage", because I'm learning to both follow the bliss of my naturally creative instincts and desires, as well as learning to follow the bliss of my emotional state - not allowing myself to remain in a state of suffering - as it's only a mindset and I can change that at anytime. Of any circumstance, one can choose how one will react and how one will remain. You don't have to remain motionless and not express displeasure if you experience something very painful and shocking. But you don't have to stay in that space for any longer than you have to. You can choose a better feeling way and that will attract better circumstances. That's what I choose. I am choosing bliss in all its forms. And I appreciate sharing my journey and lessons with you, in hopes that they help you somehow. Well, folks, this feels like a "Good time for segment of refreshment!" as Esther Hicks says on the Abraham-Hicks recordings of live workshopshttp://Abraham-Hicks.com. Let me just thank you so much for being here, and caring about what this young gyal has to say about the workings of her wild and wacky mind. Here are some wishes for you to take into you, well, wherever makes you happiest to take them in! May you always know your power, May you be willing to learn and grow May you easily accept assistance in all forms, May you learn to learn from joy rather than struggle, May you accept the struggle as a part of life that is a gift, May you easily let go of bad-feeling thoughts and invite and grow and focus on the good-feeling thoughts, May you enjoy the journey as the destination, knowing you will never be completely satisfied because where would be the fun in that? May you embrace and be excited by and attracted to challenge, May you master pleasure and be a great keeper, giver, and sharer of it, May you achieve all your goals, and receive all your heart's fondest desires, surpassing all your expectations, This, or something better, And may it be for the good of all. With love, in art and community, Cassendre Xavier (aka Amethyste Rah, aka Amrita Waterfalls) renaissance negresse (musician/writer/actress/fine artist) & ARTrepreneur (Award-Winning Founder & Director of the Black Women's Arts Festival and the Women's Writing & Spoken Word Series) Ordained Interfaith Minister CD Baby http://tinyurl.com/CXCDbaby YouTube http://tinyurl.com/CXYouTube iTunes http://tinyurl.com/CXiTunes http://www.cassEndrExavier.com =================================== FRIENDS' NEWS JANET MASON RELEASES NEW BOOK "Tea Leaves: a memoir of mothers and daughters" Greetings! I wanted to let you know that Tea Leaves: a memoir of mothers and daughters (Bella Books) is now available from a bookstore near you and also online -- in book and eBook formats. I'm delighted, of course, and very excited about sharing this story with those who find it meaningful. I am working with the SAGE Center in New York and SAGE (Services and Advocacy for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgendered Elders) Chapters around the Country, with PFLAG (Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) chapters, and with individual LGBT Community Centers including Rainbow Serenity of Northwest Indiana. Special thanks to these organizations and to members of OLOC (Old Lesbians Organizing for Change) for the help in spreading the word about Tea Leaves. I am very interested in working with other organizations. Please let me know if you have any suggestions. I also have a number of readings and appearances scheduled beginning with the Equality Forum in May. For more information, click on the following link: http://tealeavesamemoir.wordpress.com/readings/ I also wanted to let you know that there are a few openings left in my writing class at The Mt. Airy Learning Tree https://learningtree.ccwis.com/CourseStatus.awp?&course=12SWM06. The six week class held on Wednesday nights includes in-class writing exercises that delve into the deep sources that we all have inside of us. The class will also include instruction on podcasting, blogging, self publishing and the traditional routes of using an agent or publishing with a small press. Ultimately, the course will address the rather radical notion that all of our stories are worth telling and that we become more powerful by giving voice to them. yours in celebrating our stories, Janet Note: If the Mayan predictions are right, then let's go out in a blaze of self expression. It would be great to see some of you in class (and please forward the information to that special someone who may be interested)! Visit http://amusejanetmason.com/ Janet Mason, a second generation feminist, intimately explores the paradoxical legacies of family and culture. Any woman who has borne witness to the passing of her mother will be moved by this account and any woman who has yet to face this life-changing transition will be illuminated and directed, as if by a map. -Sheila Ortiz Taylor ----------------------------------------------------------------------------- LACEY C. CLARK! of Sisters' Sanctuary presents Phenomenally U: Three Candid Conversations about Sex, Self-respect and Success for Mothers and Teen Daughters in the Reality TV Era. Saturday, May 5, 2012 from 9:00 AM to 1:00 PM (PT) Philadelphia, PA, FREE!! http://sisterssanctuary.eventbrite.com/ ----------------------------------------------------------- CAROL MOROTTI-MEEKER - COUNSELOR/COACH Carol Morotti-Meeker MS,MLSP, CRC has been a counselor/coach for over 25 years with hundreds of satisfied clients. She holds numerous certifications for holistic practices such as massage, flower essences,Reiki, Reconnection and breathwork. Carol has been working with astrology and numerology for over 30 years. She lives near the northwest (Chestnut Hill) section of Philadelphia and can be reached at 215 233-0227 and via email at: mallard033(at)comcast.net. ------------------------------------------------------ SEX TALK WITH TAMARA PINCUS - This Week Diana Adams Tuesday, May 29, 2012. 7:00pm until 8:00pm This week I will be interviewing Diana Adams, family lawyer and winner of the 2011 Fulsom Street East Sexual Freedom Award. Ms. Adams does law with GLBT kinky and poly families and is an outspoken activist for the rights of alternative families. Ms. Adams speaks nationally about legal alternatives to marriage and the future of family law as the face of the American family shifts. She is on the Advisory Council of the Woodhull Freedom Foundation, advocating for sexual freedom to be recognized as a human right, and is involved with the Alternatives to Marriage Project, advocating for the legal rights of people who are unmarried. In 2009 and 2010 alone, she has spoken on these topics at venues including Yale Law School, New York Law School, the Manhattan LGBT Center, numerous national conferences on sexuality, Current TV, and MTV, and her work has been noted in the New York Times, the Washington Post, and New York Magazine. This coverage is due in part to her outspokenness about her own nontraditional family. Ms. Adams' ability to speak boldly about her own life and about proposals for legal reform reflect an unflinching perseverance which she brings to advocacy on behalf of her clients. Please click here to read more about her legal activism. Diana Adams is an active member of the Brooklyn Bar Association, and an avid pro bono volunteer with the Brooklyn Bar Association's Volunteer Lawyers Project (VLP) in their programming for domestic violence victims, the elderly, and debtors being sued by their creditors. Ms Adams has received annual commendations for her pro bono work from the Brooklyn Bar VLP and New York State's Empire Counsel. When not practicing law, Diana Adams is a self-defense instructor and nationally ranked martial artist, a relationship coach and workshop leader for individuals and couples seeking greater honesty and communication, a freelance writer working on her first book, and is involved in the New York City art community. Event link/s: https://www.facebook.com/christopher.mcjetters#!/events/340137776045982, www.myqrad​io.com Contact Tamara Pincus: http://​www.tamarapincus.com, https://www.facebook.com/tamara.pincus ------------------------------------------------------ SUSANA MAYER, PH.D: NEXT EROTIC LITERARY SALON - MAY 15 Hello Friends of the Philadelphia Cultural Salons, Thanks to all who made April's Salon another wonderful evening of steamy readings. The discussion at the end was most inofrmative, and enjoyed by those that stayed to listen. May 15th next Salon - Dr. Frances will be back from her snowbird hideout. I know she will be excited to see all and share one of her stories. May's Press Release can be viewed at www.theEroticliterarysalon.com. Check navigation bar - Press Release. I also blog daily (almost). Postings usually deal with newsworthy & not so newsworthy s+exual issues that include my s+x positive spin, steamy stories, and interesting events. IMPORTANT: Format change for signing up to read. To reserve a space to read at the Salon, please add your name to the sign-up sheet posted at upstairs entrance. 15-20 names will be accepted, depending upon the program for the evening and length of pieces. Names will be collected starting at 7:30. I am tweeting, do follow @TheEroticSalon. Partnering and cross promoting the following events and workshops: 
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