Sunday, June 20, 2010

Letter to Our Fathers

by Cassendre Xavier

Dear Daddies,

We, your children, forgive and thank you.

You were not taught that it was safe for men to cry. You were not treated with gentleness as a boy. You were not loved nearly as much as your dear heart was worthy of.

You were imperfect, and in some ways, you were wonderful as a father. But we often forgot the good times, and weren't reminded enough to remember.

We are healing from the harsh lessons we learned from you, and we now recognize you are healing from yours.

We forgive you and know you always did the best you knew how. We thank you for your hard work in providing for us.

Thank you for agreeing to parent us in this lifetime. Thank you for giving us the opportunity to learn and practice understanding, compassion, empathy, and forgiveness. Thank you for teaching us to be strong and independent.

We wish your spirit peace and we know your highest self wants the same for us.

With love, forgiveness, and gratitude from your healing children.


Cassendre Xavier is a multi-media healing artist and Creative Life Coach. Based in Philadelphia, she is the founder and director of that city's 7th Annual Black Women's Arts Festival (July 29 thru August 1, 2010). For more information, please visit

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How to Help the Gulf of Mexico

by Cassendre Xavier

Millions of people all over the world are working on the tragic Gulf of Mexico oil spill. Since our strongest power comes from joining our heart-centered intentions with two or more people, let those of us who wish to act to solve this problem find others of a like mind. Not everyone is working in the same way to resolve this problem, and not everything about this problem is "bad". There are blessings in every situation, and we have a choice to seek and maximize the blessings. In this case, an awareness of many issues has been raised among a formerly sleeping public.

Also, many are (finally) being held accountable for their actions, and we all have this opportunity to significantly effect and/or transform the way business is done. Let us all stop judging. While it is reasonable to want and expect justice and an evening of the proverbial scales, our efforts are much better used at continued, nonstop focus on finding a way to stop the spill. We are all geniuses and when we combine our efforts for good and only coming from a place of love, we can create miracles.

If you ever feel anger or hatred towards "those" who "created" this situation, replace those feelings and thoughts with love for them and for our planet. It's not that they won't be held accountable - they will, but it's our love that will heal the planet and from there we can create a system of, or impart justice - from a wiser place.
None of us has to have the answers, but we would be much wiser to clear our hearts and minds of any thoughts that are not loving.

I'm feeling that it would be very helpful for us all to do a lot of forgiveness work. Many of us are very frustrated, and afraid. Fear is not love - and fear grows exponentially. Let's do a lot of forgiveness - think about the "jerks who made this mess" and see them as children who made a mistake. I'm not saying corporate heads need to be coddled, but we won't be the clear channels of transformational miracles if we're busy running around trying to "spank" the "bad guys". Let's put our energies on healing mother earth - ask her what she needs from us.

Do you remember the bees thing from years ago? They started disappearing? When lightworkers asked the bees why, they were told that the bees had been overused for too long.

I'm sure we don't have to go too far deep into meditation to find out what Mother Nature is trying to tell us. We as a whole have been abusing her body for far too long. We plunder without thinking --we are full of greed. We don't think of what might happen if we make a mistake. We are All One. Those "guys" who "created this mess" are extensions of, and connected to us. And that's another reason not to hate or want to hurt them. How do you want to be treated when you've made a mistake, or are misguided or didn't know any better?

At any given time, we are all doing the best we can. And when we are making mistakes, or doing things that are hurting others, we can be shown a better way, and forgiven our errors.

That's the kind of parent, friend, or lover I think I'd want, that's the kind of person I'm trying to become, and that's the way we will heal our planet, not only of this spill, but of the hatred and intolerance, and fear we've allowed to dominate our hearts and minds for far too long.

Lastly, scientists are beginning to have tools to guage things that lightworkers have always known. One of those things is that our heart and feelings significantly effect the earth. (NY Times bestselling author and scientist Gregg Braden explains this in this video I also highly recommend part one of the interview

When we have thoughts or feelings of fear, chaos, anger, rage, guilt, shame, etc. we actually contribute to the creation of hurricanes, tornadoes, earthquakes, etc.
When we use and strenghen our hearts in love, we also bring peace and love to our physical environment.

The most powerful thing we can all do to help solve the oil spill in the Gulf of Mexico is to focus on love at all times, and recongize that fear is an absence of love.

Forgiveness is love, patience is love, generosity is love, hope and faith are love. Anger is a lack of love, fear is a lack of love, despair and hopelessness are an absence of love.

When we focus love and forgiveness, we will be guided to the next steps we can take. We may be led to contact an individual, organization, or action that will help this issue. Or we may simply be instructed to meditate more. Not everyone is designed to be on the frontlines.

Thanks for your consciousness, love, generosity, and focus on healing our planet.

We are All One.


Cassendre Xavier is a healing multi-media artist and Creative Life Coach. Based in Philadelphia, she is the founder and director of that city's 7th Annual Black Women's Arts Festival (July 29 thru August 1, 2010). For more information, please visit

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Wednesday, June 16, 2010

Don't Save the Best for Last

by Cassendre Xavier

I realized a couple of years ago that I often "save the best for last".

It started with little things - I'd use the crumpled facial tissue or paper towel before grabbing the crisp new one next to it, or I'd save the best bite of food on my plate until I reached the end of my meal. Something told me at the time that it was symbolic of other areas in my life where I was settling for less in hopes of a better thing "later" - always "later".

I made a mental note of it, to remember to use the "good" thing first, but I wasn't committed to the exercise and soon was back to my old ways.
Lately, I've realized that this way of doing things really is symbolic of a behavior I'd like to change.

It all started with perfume.
I had purchased a few perfume oils that I really liked a lot. Two were Indian scents - strong, floral, perfume-y, and rollerball, I just loved them. I started wearing the one I liked the least on a daily basis (why did I do that?), then when that one was finished, I used the one I liked more. I had also purchased two other oils, one which it turned out my Main Squeeze liked a lot, but I didn't like that much, so I only wore it on our outings or other special occasions.

Lastly, there was "Beautiful", a copycat of two of my favorite Estee Lauder scents "Beautiful" and "Knowing". The "Beautiful" fragrance oil was by far my favorite scent, and because it was, I chose to save it for extra special occasions.

But in recent weeks, I decided I didn't always want to be looking forward to some brighter future while suffering in a difficult present, and I connected to my continued "saving the best for last" to my challenge. I decided to use the best first.

I began with, well everything. If I pulled out a bunch of crumpled, yet clean tissues from my purse or backpack, I would still go out of my way to use the clean and folded napkins or tissues inches away. From my collection of scented body lotions and creams, I began using the pricier, more fragrant, "special" stuff.

Maya Angelou says she always eats dinner on her finest china and silverware. Now I know why. When you use the best for yourself, even when you're by yourself, you're saying "I'm worth it."

When you don't save the best for last, when you use the best first, you're creating space for even better to come into your life.

This is what I learned when I started using "Beautiful". I made it my everyday scent, and here's what happened:

First, I felt very special. I felt rich, like Oprah, wise, like Maya Angelou, and glamorous like Miss Piggy and Mae West!
Secondly, I noticed that as I used the oil, I realized I would at some point need to replace it.
And then I had the thought, "I wonder what he (the perfume shop owner) has that's even better than this and in my price range?"
After that, I thought, "Or by then I'll probably have much more money and will be able to choose from many more options in his store!"
And after that, "Or maybe by then I'll be able to afford and actual bottle of Estee Lauder's 'Beautiful'!"
And lastly, I recalled that a friend of mine had recently been window shopping at Macy's and I'd discovered another Estee fragrance I liked a lot, Azuree. My friend teased me because it was so strong and perfumey- like Indian incense, which I liked a lot, but which is totally not her style.

When I was at Macy's smelling Azuree I knew I would sometime soon have it, even though it wasn't in my budget at the time. And as long as I was using my least favorite fragrances, I wasn't really thinking much about Azuree - certainly not enough to WoManifest it into my existence and enjoyment.

By putting "Beautiful" to use - enjoying the best first, space was immediately created to be filled - in this case, space that previously had held the best.

You see, when you use up the best, you automatically make room for a new and better "best" to come into your life.

So now I exercise this new theory often.

Is there a down side? Sure, there is. I feel a sense of loss and sadness using the best first because then I no longer have anything in my immediate future to look forward to.
Whenever I'm eating now, and there's that delicious bite on my plate, and I decide I'm going to eat it first, I'm sad because I no longer have that bite to look forward to anymore. But I do it because it's a good exercise. It's a metaphor for other areas in my life where I no longer want to be longing for improvement or something better.

I invite you to partake of this experiment and experience with me.

If you have "nice" or "good" china or silverware, take it out and use it yourself, use it now. You'll find that sometime in the near future you'll want to replace them with even better china and silverware, and when you have acquired those, use them first, too, and so on. Think of Maya!

When you're eating, enjoy the finest part of the meal first. Don't wait until the end.

If you have three kinds of shampoo, one "every day" kind and one "special occasions" one, use the "special occasions" or fancy one first. See how you feel using fancy shampoo every single day, even just to go grocery shopping.

Why should you only take out the best of anything for "company" (your guests), your job/employer, or a date? Are any of those human beings worth more than you? Absolutely not. And more importantly, they probably won't care or notice that your hair is more fragrant or your skin is softer than on another day. They won't go home and shriek with delight how impressed they were at your glimmering dishware, and if they do, that says something about their personal values and priorities, which likely don't match yours, or you probably wouldn't be reading this article!

Don't let your lover be the only one who sees you in sexy underwear. Wear sexy underwear for yourself, first! Maybe no one else will know what you have on underneath, but you will, and you'll feel better for it - more confident, and more worthy because you took the time and effort to put it on for yourself - not for anyone else.

Think of Oprah Winfrey. She has the finest things, and uses them for herself. And I believe that's why she continues to WoManifest even more things and more money to have more things, because she actually uses them for herself, and not only for others. It's important to use your resources to make the world a better place, but it's no good to put yourself lower, as second class citizen. Spirit didn't make you any less worthy and the world doesn't do any better by anyone's misguided so-called sacrifice. We are All One, and that means you're worth every bit of good you want to do "for" others.

Now, you may ask about recycling and overconsumption of products. Doesn't using the best and then creating more new "bests" just overcrowd landfills and create waste? It doesn't have to, and that's a very valid concern. In fact, this is one story I would tell myself when I was resisting using the best first.

I thought it was good to use the soap til it's a speck o' nothing, while I left the fancy one in the box to be opened and displayed for, and used by, guests only.

Then I realized there were no exceptions to my "Use the Best First" exercise. I had to go through the motions until I learned all there was to know about this issue.
And what I learned is this - we can always adjust. The world will not be harmed by your giving yourself the best.

I still save soap scraps - I just use them to wash my hands on a daily basis, while I use the fancy soap in the shower. And I enjoy this - that's what counts - to do what you enjoy while using the best. You can still have your values. You can still recycle.

Someday, I plan to have a system of putting all my small pieces of used soap in a mitt-like contraption so that lots of bits of soap can be used at once. I can also, if I wish, or when I'm ready, boil it in water with a little bit of borax to make liquid soap. My schedule is too busy these days to do that, but I do think about it. And so can you make similar adjustments as you use the best first!

Enjoy the best now. Know what it feels like to create space for even more and even better in your life. You may be pleasantly surprised by what you discover about yourself while you consider and enjoy being worthy of the best. Why? Because your soul knows you're worth the best, and not later, but now!

Cassendre Xavier is a multi-media healing artist and community organizer. An author and recording artist of music, guided meditations, and affirmations, she is the founder and director of Philadelphia's 7th Annual Black Women's Arts Festival (July 29 - Aug 1, 2010). She is currently giving away FREE e-books at & FREE complete album downloads of music and guided meditations at

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Tuesday, June 15, 2010

FREE Raw Coaching, Support & E-Book

Hi, folks!

I'm offering FREE raw food coaching, support, and e-books. If you'd like someone to act as your raw vegan "sponsor", or you need any help at all to start, or stay raw, please message me here, or email cxmusic(at)

My FREE e-book "Expanding Your Capacity for Joy: A Raw Vegan Comfort Book, Sourcebook & Journal" is available at

You can take or email the PDF file to your friendly neighborhood copy/print shop and have it bound, read it right out of your printer, or purchase it in print format at Arnold's Way (, Essene Market & Cafe (, or Giovanni's Room Bookstore (

Also, you can watch my raw food prep videos -to start where you are- at

Thank you for this opportunity to both serve you and grow my raw life!

In glowing health and gratitude,


Cassendre Xavier (aka Amethyste Rah, aka Amrita Waterfalls)
Multi-Media Healing Artist
Get your FREE Album Downloads of Music, Guided Meditations & Affirmations at

Monday, June 14, 2010

Trusting Divine Guidance

Never doubt divine guidance.

Yesterday I "sold" two (2) of my e-books for the very first time! I was ecstatic, as this was a very longtime dream come true. How much did I make? Nothing. The books were FREE (and they still are).

I was called to give away most of my pre-existing writing and music in digital download format.

When I processed the e-book sales, I felt really happy and rich - putting me in the zone I need to be on to WoManifest more of that good stuff.

I've had my e-book "Expanding Your Capacity for Joy" for sale for over a year, and it sells in print format in several walk-in outlets (,,, but I'd sold not a single e-book.

When I got the spiritual feeling to just give them away, I doubted, I questioned, and I resisted. After all, I "need" the money, I'm a hard worker, I love to write and have received good reviews for my writing. "Why should I give away my work for free?" I rebelliously asked God and my Guiding Angels. They didn't answer anything but "Trust us." (And I'm pretty sure at least one smart alec one said, "We don't have to tell you that. It's not our job!")

So, I figured, well, it couldn't get any worse. It's not like giving my writing away will actually take money from me. It's just sitting there in my email - these PDFs, not being read, enjoyed, or used by anyone. Maybe Spirit just wants them to be out in the world. Maybe that's how I will generate more interest in and sales of my work. Who knows? The models of success in business have changed for the publishing and recording industries. This is a whole new ballgame, folks.

I think we're seeing a whole new wave of everything, from how to shop, eat, live, love, and work as artists. No more is the model of making work and hoarding it until you find some greater source to manufacture and promote it for you. Now, the model is to make it, give it away for free, and let the world be your audience. Now spirit and you are the Source.

It's all about spirit now. In truth, it always ways, but people are getting to the truth of that now.
Now we know the importance of giving and being truthful about who we are.
Now is the time to trust that if we focus on being loving, authentic, and in service, our needs will be provided. I'm finally prepared to try that for myself.
And I've begun by sharing my writing for free.
And I genuinely trust and believe that everything will be okay. I am creating my work right now, today, by giving it away.

Please help me by taking what I offer.

My music can be downloaded for FREE (complete albums in MP3 format) at

My growing collection of e-books can be downloaded for FREE (complete books in digital format) at

I now know that I was led by Spirit to give away my e-books because people would "buy" them very soon, and then I could have the experience of processing those sales. I would feel good, I would be affirmed for my work, and know that it was helping people.
Those feelings would lead me to do more work that will grow my career as a gainfully employed and successful musician and writer.
And it may have taken many more months more to get those feelings, if I had continued trying to sell my e-book "Expanding Your Capacity for Joy". As it is, I get to have thoughts like, "It's all energy anyway, and I'm giving energy that is sure to return to me. I have faith. I am provided for. I am joyful. I am working as a writer. My writing is being used and appreciated. I feel successful!"

So, if there are any writers, musicians, artists, or creators out there - particularly if you're in the healing arts in any way, and you would like to make a living doing what you love. Please listen to your heart. Be willing to be guided by your inner signals and messages from spirit, God, your angels, or whatever you believe. If they say go left, go left. If they say give away your work, give it away.
No business school course or instructor has a fraction of the amount of wisdom your divine teachers do. Let spirit lead, and surrender to the way of your success!

Thank you for your time!

In gratitude,


------------Cassendre Xavier has been writing, making music, and creating award-winning community cultural arts events in Philadelphia since 1991. Founder of the Women's Writing & Spoken Word Series (Robin's Bookstore 2002-2006) she is founder and director of Philadelphia's 7th Annual Black Women's Arts Festival (July 29 thru Aug 1, 2010)

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Saturday, June 12, 2010

WE! WE! WE! Newsletter "Free Stuff / Your Calling" ediccione

WE! WE! WE! The Cassendre Xavier Newsletter

The "Free Stuff / Your Calling" ediccione, if you will. (As it were.)

Saturday, June 12, 2010

Dear Friends,

Being that I'm going through a very developmentally rich time in my life right now, I can send one email saying I'm going to be selling my works online, then four days later, change my mind and say that I'll be giving them away for free!

Check out my FREE e-book "Expanding Your Capacity for Joy"!

Also: FREE Complete Album Downloads! "Capable of Love" & guided meditations "Affirmations for Survivors" at

Being that I'm now giving away my musical downloads and e-books, I've still got a donations page - why not create the space just in case someone wants to use it, right? :-)

Please note these are all new links and different from those in the previous newsletter.

I'm also trying out a new name for this newsletter, from ME ME ME to WE WE WE. Thanks to Amy L. Dalton for the suggestion, and please forgive me if I revert to the old title some time in the future!

Special thanks to you all who gave me feedback on my last newsletter, by speaking (Eric Hammell) or not speaking (everyone else)!
Also special thanks to Ellie Drake who reminded me of the importance of following one's calling. Let that drive your life!

And now for your Farewell Blessing:

May you be surrounded by love all ways.

May you know the strength of your potential.

May you remain present in the present.

May you stay focused in joy.

May you often have good-feeling thoughts.

May your dreams and wishes all come true (or something better), surpassing all your expectations, and may it be for the good of all.

In art, community, and gratitude,

Cassendre Xavier (aka Amethyste Rah, aka Amrita Waterfalls)

Musician, Author & Raw Foodist

Founder & Executive Director of Philadelphia's annual Black Women's Arts Festival (July 29 – Aug 1, 2010)

Please share this message with anyone you think may dig it with a major shovel :-)

© Copyright 2010 by Cassendre Xavier. All rights reserved.

ME! ME! ME! Newsletter “M.O.N.E.Y.” ediccione

ME! ME! ME! The Cassendre Xavier Newsletter

The "M.O.N.E.Y." ediccione, if you will. (As it were.)

Tuesday, June 08, 2010

Cassendre Xavier is a multi-media artist who coined the term "renaissance negresse" in 2002. Known mostly as a recording artist and author, she is the founder and director of Philadelphia's annual Black Women's Arts Festival (Est. 2003).,

Dear Friends,

I trust all is well and that this note finds you feeling joyful or at least trying to feel better!

It's been months, I believe, since I've written this newsletter, and I've been busy as ever:

I've been working on the Black Women's Arts Festival. Newsletter coming soon, but you can read archived newsletters at our official website:

I've been doing a lot of reading and spiritual work. I've been trading energy shares and counseling sessions with former mentors who are now peers. I'm a Reiki Level I practitioner and plan to take a Level II class within the year. I also practice distant healings for people on a regular basis. If you'd ever like a distant healing, email me at

I'm still sharing my music, and affirmations at my official YouTube channel. I'm also uploading videos of me preparing raw meals and drinks there. Visit

In my raw vegan practice, I've made some progress and slid back in other ways. I recently went up to 238lbs, and recently weight in at 225. I've discovered the value and satisfying yumminess of greens+fruit salads. That's a fruitarian secret I hadn't known before. I also have now a raw vegan Overeaters Anonymous sponsor. You can read my Green Smoothie Raw Blog series at:

I live in the Lansdowne suburbs now and it's a mixed blessing I will write about soon. It's to do with the lessons of self-sufficiency, and it's bittersweet, but the sweet is very sweet indeed and you know I'm the queen of blessing countage (aka "countery" :-)

I've also been WoManifesting things and situations very quickly and well. I see now that I'm on a path to become a spiritual teacher, author, and coach, and have been writing a monthly column for Wisdom Magazine's online edition since last year. You can read my current column and archives here:

I've been releasing lots of fears and making breakthroughs in the creative and professional arena.

Even though I still have the dream of becoming a very successful musician and singer-songwriter, I know the time is now for me to learn to be self-sufficient in other ways – ways that will build up my body, mind, spirit, and finances to create the resources to supply what I need to make significant progress in music. That's what I think anyway, but as I try, I will note where the energy goes. If it's stagnant in my non-musical projects that I hope will earn me a good income while I serve folks in my spiritual work, then I will have to do something else, which will be to wholeheartedly throw myself into music first and foremost. You can see and hear my musical recordings and downloads at

I'm starting to release a lot of my creative energy and trying to become the artist I've always wanted to be. My Own Natural Energy Yield = Money (according to Iyanla Vanzant) so I'm trying to put out as much of this natural energy as possible.

One of the first things I'm doing is designing online courses to teach and lead. If you'd like to be notified of these when they're released (in the next few weeks), please send a blank email to:

Another thing I'm doing is preparing to offer sessions as a Creative Life Coach. I have been coaching folks since 1991 and am thrilled to have the opportunity to provide a service that I seem attuned to, and enjoy greatly. Like the classes, these take time to design. I'm even thinking about whether or not I am equipped emotionally to offer the same services to men that I offer women. I don't think so, and hadn't even considered this until yesterday when I came across a Creative Life Coach who works only with female clients. Given my abuse history with men in my childhood, and my almost 20 years of experience creating events and support groups for women, I think I may be a perfect candidate to offer coaching sessions to women only. I'll keep you posted, but in the meantime, no matter what gender you are, if you'd like to be notified when I'm offering Creative Life Coaching sessions, please send a blank email to:

I've created a couple of pages to start getting more of my work out, to allow me to do the work I'm suited for to be of service. It'll take some time, and in the meantime, it seems I'm no longer suitable for the kinds of jobs I used to do before I had the courage to become a full-time artist. It's a longer story, detailed at my new Love Offering page, which includes not only nifty packages of CDs and original CX stationery you can order, but also a blank open "Love Offering" you can use to donate any amount to The Cause :-). Click here for more info: or

My long-time dream of writing e-books and making them instantaneously available has finally come true! I have only one e-book posted right now, but I will soon have many, many more. I am currently finishing transcribing my first chapbook "secrets & lies: poetry and other words" (ARtivist Publications, 2005) which was sold at Robin's and Giovanni's Room bookstores, and now will be available worldwide at the click of a button! It includes my poems "to the 4' asian woman who swears she's so tough", "Be Coming Magical: a Blackwomyn's Journey, Or: How to Become a Witch When All Your Teachers are White", and "telegram to erotic from terror", the latter of which became the script to my play "Sex for Survivors" which ran for 3 days at the 2003 Philadelphia Fringe Festival and featured cellist/composer/vocalist Monica McIntyre, poet Samantha Barrow, and love activist/healing artist O aka Loretta Lynne Payne. You can keep tabs of my new e-books at: or

And now for your Farewell Blessing:

May you be surrounded by love all ways.

May you know the strength of your potential.

May you remain present in the present.

May you stay focused in joy.

May you often have good-feeling thoughts.

May your dreams and wishes all come true (or something better), surpassing all your expectations, and may it be for the good of all.

In art, community, and gratitude,

Cassendre Xavier

Healing Artist, Raw Foodist & Creative Life Coach

Founder & Executive Director of Philadelphia's annual Black Women's Arts Festival (July 29 – Aug 1, 2010)

Coming soon: Online Courses, Creative Life Coaching!

Please share this message with anyone you think may dig it with a major shovel :-)

© Copyright 2010 by Cassendre Xavier. All rights reserved.